My wife just ordered us Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick. To be honest, I am nervous about reading it. When trying to correct my kids, instead of leading my kids to Christ, I have often resorted to behavior modification. The latter is easier and brings quick results . . . that don't last. I am sure to find myself in deep repentance. Here is an article by Elyse from The Resurgence that I am sure you'll find beneficial. Below is an excerpt of what she has written. Check out the article by clicking here and think about picking up a copy of Give Them Grace. Praying for you all.
"Let’s face it: most of our children believe that God is happy if they’re “good for goodness’ sake.” We’ve transformed the holy, terrifying, magnificent, and loving God of the Bible into Santa and his elves. And instead of transmitting the gloriously liberating and life-changing truths of the gospel, we have taught our children that what God wants from them is morality. We have told them that being good (at least outwardly) is the be-all and end-all of their faith."
